Finding Stillness: Self-Care, as a Mom
As a new mom, I’ve redefined self-care for myself.
Deep attunement to inner needs
It’s the quiet act of returning to ourselves—again and again..
You only need yourself and a little internal space
Self-care is not about adding more to your to-do list. It’s about subtracting the noise and softening into presence.
Stillness is key
When we choose stillness, we begin to hear the subtle wisdom already within. We slow down not to escape life, but to come home to it more fully.
Said simply, self-care through presence not products.
I love a good face oil (I just ordered a couple new ones) but I’m learning to not believe that until that product is used, I can’t feel better, refreshed, and invigorated. Self-care currently is sold as something external. I’ve learned though, I don’t need to fix myself but rather spend more time being.
A question to reflect on: how can I practice self-care right now without needing or waiting for something external?
How do I practice being? Being with my intuition. Closing eyes, breathing out, and doing two things: 1) set your awareness/focus on a part of your body like your palms or heart center and 2) exhaling out (you will naturally inhale but as you exhale, you cease overthinking). Keep going and your intuition will come through. Like a deep knowing bubbling up to the surface.
Intuition is your inner compass - it knows what is right for you in this moment. When we’re tuned in, self-care becomes a natural response. We’re guided within, not dictated from the outside. Self-care then becomes responsive rather than routine. (Routine isn’t bad but I find a previous day’s or week’s self-care practice may not be what my mind and body need today.)
16 months in as a new mom, I’m finding my rhythm and realizing that it’s okay to not have the time or space to get massages or pedicures or even a consistent eight hours of sleep nightly. I can always create “internal space” (between ME and the mind) and feel sooooo much better than I did before.
